Do you think this is appropriate for a father to send this to his 16 and 13 year old sons?
Well my ex husband is a ship’s pilot. He started off working at sea and was away from home for many months. I had to raise our children by myself for much of the time. It was tough.
Meanwhile he went up the career ladder and finally made it to ship’s pilot. A great job, staying at home, lots of time off, good conditions, top money.
But he had cheated on me throughout our marriage with hundreds of women. I found that out when he got one of them pregnant.
I stood by him and tried to forgive him, as I thought he was a sex addict. I was probably wrong and it was in fact a personality disorder The cheating stopped at the end but I finally left him when the verbal and emotional abuse became too much for me.
After we split he went wild with all the women he could get his hands on. I know this for a number of reasons, including my 7 year old son coming home from a visit with his dad and asking me ‘What is adultmatchaker.com mum? Dad was looking at it and there were pictures of ladies with no clothes on?’
I had a good idea what it might be and when I looked it up I discovered an online site to find people to have sex with.
I also know that he continued to cheat and was unfaithful to his new girlfriend, the one he met less than a month after I left him and is still with 5 years later.
It was ironic then, when he said in one of his nasty emails that ‘you are more interested in spending your money on your many men than doing the right thing by the children.’
This is pure projection as I dated one man after I left him – and he is the man I later married who is now stepfather to my children.
So, the man who cheated on his wife for his whole marriage, who cheats on his new girlfriend and acts in the most innapproiriate sexual manner – sends his two impressionable teenage sons a ‘joke’ like this? Really?! He really thinks this is suitable?
There are times when I wonder if my assessment of him having a personality disorder is wrong. I see that his new girlfriend is still with him and speculate that maybe he has changed, is growing up and is a better person with her than he ever was with me.
And then something like this happens I just KNOW he isn’t sane and hasn’t learned a thing.
I try to teach my children right from wrong, morals and values, to have a conscience and to treat their partners with dignity and respect. And their father craps all over it with a’ joke’ like this.
I think only a narcissist or someone with something seriously wrong with them would think that this ‘joke’ is appropriate and not be able to see the sheer irony in it. What do you think?
- Understanding Personality Disorders in Relationships, Page 1 (protectivemothersalliance.wordpress.com)
- What’s in a name? (frogstale.wordpress.com)
- When Your Husband or Wife Cheats (newrelationshipguide.wordpress.com)
- Five Reasons for Divorce (beyondjane.com)
- Life Lessons (frogstale.wordpress.com)
- 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat (adolfmathebula.wordpress.com)