I am an ordinary person to whom some extraordinary things have happened. I have been married twice. I was with my first husband for 21 years. I thought he was a sex addict for the last 5 years. After I left I discovered he probably has a personality disorder and that he had been verbally and emotionally abusing me for all our marriage. I am writing a memoir about that relationship. Hop into the tab ‘A Frog’s Tale’ and look at what will probably be on my back jacket!
I married my second husband 2 years later and he was a kind, lovely man. So different from my first husband. It wasn’t difficult to fall in love with him and feel that I was being treated respectfully and with honesty. We had two great years and then he was diagnosed with Aspergers. Things went downhill from there. It it isn’t easy being married to someone with Aspergers. They can’t do intimacy and share their feelings. When he got retrenched from his job (for the second time since we had been together) his Asperger behaviour increased. Our relationship fell apart. We separated. I couldn’t do this anymore.
He moved down into the spare room in the garage and is still living in my house because he has no job, no money, and nowhere to go.
All the time we have been together my first ex husband, James, has been trying to punish me for leaving and still tries to verbally abuse me. He also loves to take me to court and I have been in and out of court for the 5 1/2 years we have been apart.
I have learned how to deal with his behaviour over the years and I keep ‘winning’ in court – if you can call it ‘winning’ because no-one really wins in court except the lawyers. At least it hasn’t cost me heaps – I have been representing myself.
So this blog is my story and musings on life, the universe and everything – I think I have a tale to tell – only you can be the judge of whether it is worth reading or not. I hope you enjoy.